Dec. 17, 2018

Reframe It

There is a term used among mental health professionals referred to as “reframing.” If we feel caught up in the negative side of life, it is healthy to reframe it. Reframing doesn’t mean you deny reality. It isn’t encouraging you to minimize the impact certain situations have on you. Reframing it simply means you choose to make lemonade out of a bunch of lemons.

The Lord led me to reframe my outlook on life. This past year has been difficult on me for many reasons. I choose not to get into the details, but I would like to be vulnerable enough to share bits and pieces in hopes of helping anyone out there who is feeling overwhelmed by their life.

God revealed to me that I am living life in 3D. Disillusionment, disgust, and by being disgruntled. While I continue to count my blessings in this spiritual wilderness, I cannot deny my feelings. What I can do is to pray for God to help me accept the things I cannot change, change the things I can, and grant me wisdom to know the difference. We know it as “The Serenity Prayer.” It is applicable for most of us.

I choose to see the past year as another lesson learned. I’ve learned that people and systems fail me. I’ve learned that I am disgusted by the current state of affairs. I’ve learned that being disgruntled creates a negative spirit. I want to be led by the Holy Spirit and He is far from negative. In fact, my pastor taught in his sermon yesterday that, “Faith is hope in the present tense. Hope is faith in the future.” I choose both.

God is calling me to live a G-rated life: Gratitude, grace, and goodness. I think reflection is a natural part of the holiday season as we move into a new year. I choose to embrace gratitude even when things look grim. I choose to apply grace hoping others will apply it liberally to me. I will exercise goodness; not greed, not gloating, not griping. My life is blessed. We have to add sugar to life’s lemonade in order for it to be good.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!