Sep. 5, 2017

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The word, “call,” is an interesting one in the Christian life. There is a difference between a spiritual call and an emotional “want to.” When I was a young mother, I had many phone calls from my church asking me to volunteer for this, or lead that, or to be part of some committee. My time and commitment as a wife and mother were constantly threatened by ego and over involvement. The main thing I had to determine is how many of the phone calls were God’s call for me as opposed to tasks I felt had to be done, regardless of whether the task was really mine to do?

Women seem to have a tough time saying, “no,” when called upon. Many women run the risk of being there for everyone except their own children. The verse found in Mark 8:36 asks, “What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?” I believe this verse comes into play when overloading ourselves with church or civic duties. Our children come from deep within us. In many ways, our children are our immortality. What good does it do to fill a position if our children suffer?

I heard a pastor near retirement share with his congregation that his greatest regret was the fact his wife raised their children virtually alone while he built a church. Children suffer when dads are detached or moms are distracted. 

The bible is clear that women have a significant role in the family. I believe the church teaches men as the heads of the household in some very unbiblical and unhealthy ways. The same is true for women’s roles in the church and home. We were not an afterthought of God. We were created to complete man and to cooperate in serving our Lord. 

While I understand today’s finances make it very hard for women to be stay-at-home moms concentrating solely on their children for at least the first year of each child’s life, I also understand many women make it harder on themselves than God ever intended for it to be. You know I am a strong proponent for women’s leadership in churches, in our community, and in corporate America. I’ve also stressed that I believe God’s entire word teaches mutual submission in healthy relationships. I encourage all of us to ask whether we are answering God’s call in our life or simply saying yes to the request of men?

I can guarantee you that as my sons walked across a stage in their graduations, academic and military, I never once whispered, “Man! I spent way too much time with them!”