Jun. 28, 2017

Family Matters


My parents taught my siblings and I to get along. In fact, they insisted on it. I am not talking about childhood fights or “she took my doll” disagreements. I am saying that when we prepared to leave home, we were reminded that arguing with our siblings was the same as disrespecting my parents themselves.

My parents’ insistence that our family stick together is also obvious to my closest friends. When my brother was still on Facebook, he, my oldest sister, and myself got into a political discussion that turned ugly (they always do!). My best friend posted, “Gerald and Amy would not be happy with this conversation.” She was right.  We deleted the thread and apologized to one another by phone. All three of us regretted our words. We never, ever told my parents about the Facebook fight. We would have been grounded.

Two of my siblings had addiction issues. It didn’t matter.  My parents instructed and expected the two non-addicted children to love and support the ones in rehab. They went through multiple rehabs over many years. My sister and I kept loving them regardless. It’s what we were taught to do.

Facebook tends to bring out the best and the worst in us. I’m as guilty as the next guy. I am probably guiltier than most since I don’t mind contributing to any conversation – Facebook or face-to-face. I must admit I read some posts grown people share about their family and I shake my head. Really? If you didn’t learn to get along with your family, most especially your siblings, you will most likely have serious relationship problems. The purpose of family is to prepare us for and support us in all of life’s experiences.

And, let’s be frank, if you don’t respect your parents, you will find it very difficult to respect authority in any fashion – boss, pastor, policemen, etc. The interesting thing about the bible is we are not commanded to honor our parents only when they deserve honor. We are to honor them because they are our parents. I suspect God knows very well that some parents are not honorable, but our first experience with His authority is reflected in how we treat and respect our parents.

I think it is time for me to wrap this up. Truthfully, most people think I write my blogs about them, which is the farthest thing from my mind – for the most part. However, I have someone in mind when writing this blog. This person has issues with any hint of authority. Could be that the person proves my parental honor theory is correct. He might want to back up and relearn how important honoring his parents is to God.

Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise) so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” Ephesians 6:2-3