Jul. 15, 2015

You tell me?

In the early 1980’s, I attempted to break into the childbirth education profession without a medical or nursing degree. It wasn’t easy. However, it was possible. I felt women needed advocates as opposed to more medical advice. They needed an experienced voice with an understanding heart.

The first job inquiry I made was to my local hospital. I was told in no uncertain terms that I would not be considered for a prenatal educator’s position without a nursing degree.  I kept calling. At the time, Jefferson Davis County Hospital was the largest maternity hospital in the nation. They were desperate for bedside educators to support women without partners. The nursing degree wasn’t an issue for them since they saw the role as more of support rather than treatment. Finally, I fit in with a facility’s philosophy.

Within five years, I was the highest paid Certified Childbirth Educator in the Houston area. I was the primary Prenatal and Early Parenting Educator for the very hospital that had once rejected me. I also worked with Baylor College of Medicine taking their first and second year medical students through their labor and delivery rotations. I do not share this to brag. I share this for one simple reason – it was at this point in my life that I was taught to simply say, “I don’t know,” when asked and I didn't know the answer. Again, my role was not one of medical advice. My role was patient advocacy. If a medical question came up in class, I referred them to their physicians or said, “I don’t know, but let me find out for you.” My mentor taught me that saying the words, “I don’t know” actually revealed strength; not weakness.

As we move into more and more turbulent times in our country, I hear and see both sides to most issues. I understand valid concerns. I understand anger. I understand passion. I understand hostility. Those things I know because I understand them.

I don’t know all the answers to all the questions. However, I believe Jesus does.

We seem to talk a lot about right, wrong, law, moral decay, offense, defense, etc. Why isn’t anyone talking about what Jesus said when asked what was the most important law of the land? You see, I don’t know the answer to every question. I do know the answer to the most important question:

“Then one of them, a lawyer, asked Him a question, testing Him, and saying, ‘Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the law?’ Jesus said to him, ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 22:35-40

So, next time someone asks me what I think about the most recent Supreme Court decision or someone tries to draw me into an argument about a flag or politics, I am going to respond, “I don’t know the answer to everything. I do know The Answer to all things. Have you talked to Him lately?”